I was talking to a friend the other day and we got on the subject of love and how it is hard to say I love you because of past pain and hurt. During the conversation I realized that people who have a hard time expressing love also have a hard time with issues of trust. A lot of times we continue to look to the past to control our present and to dictate our future. When we do that I believe that we don't realize how we have given control of our being to some one or something else. My friend went on to tell me the story of their childhood and how their father and even people that portrayed themselves to be a friend had belittled and used this person for their own gain. What I discovered with this individual is that they are never happy with the things in their life because they are not happy with themselves. I came to the conclusion that I was and in some respects I have those tendencies. Being here in Korea and in this city I realized that I had to be taken out of my fast pace L A life and come to some place a little slower. I have this friend Jung Hyun and he always tells me to take things slow and appreciate the moment. I will be honest at first I thought this boy was a fool but, one day he took me into the downtown of the city that I am staying in and he just had me sit there on a bench in the town square for a good hour. What I discovered in that time was that the people were noisy but it was a different kind of noise... it was peaceful, something that I had never experienced before. But back to the my blog and the topic at hand. I was talking to this individual and they are always looking at what they don't have and not appreciating what they do. I went on to ask this individual the thing you don't have put it to the side and tell me five things you do have? The person named a couple a inanimate objects but then they went on to talk about their mother and a couple of friends. I then asked that person would they trade any of those people for that one thing they thought would make them happy.The individual said no! What I was trying to get across was that we must find contentment with what we have and not always focused on the next best thing because the at some point the next best thing will be the out dated thing and then we will be focused on the new next best thing. We tend to look at life like as a fairy tale... almost like a movie where everything is perfect but what we need to remember is that movies are made up... Life is full of bad times but there are a lot of good times as well and like I was trying to get across to the person that I was discussing these issues with, we must not let our past dictate our future. We learn from it so we don't make the same mistakes but we can never go back and change anything. The only thing we can do is try to make tomorrow better and the first step is through unconditional love. The love that does not judge and does not use but the love that is always there with a shoulder or a hand to help without expecting anything in return.